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Women go through ish sometimes… It’s the very ish that makes us stronger than ever

Posted on: September 20, 2008

Alice Walker:  No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow

My girls and I were chilling at a new joint in Gtown and we were chatting about God, love, life, friends, sex, money, the future and the list goes on and on. But throughout the night I realised that you know women have lots of issues man. We go through stuff!! And I don’t think men know this.

The topic that stood out for me were how we women hold onto things that are holding us down. Be it men who do not plant anything good in our lives, girlfriends who speak badly of us etc. We are hoarders and we think we can change those that are part of our lives but I say if that person ain’t adding anything good to your soul and mind, let them Go!!! TD Jakes says, “have the Spirit of goodbye” meaning when that person’s season has gone past and they are dragging you down instead of pulling you up, wave goodbye to them-their season is gone.

Having said that it is difficult to do so. I mean I was in the same situation not so long ago with one of my friends. I loved her dearly and still do but people grow apart and that was the case with my friend and I. We moved to different varsities, we were 1200km away from each other and life continued. Letting her go broke my heart but I figured if we are true friends we will meet again hopefully in the near future, if not it’s cool. I have met other wonderful people and I feel blessed to have them in my life. So yeah I’ve waved goodbye…

Another topic which struck me the most was the ambition of my friends. Haaibo, I’ve met some interesting people in my life but the women i was chilling with showed me and inspired me to gear up my gears. Life holds so much and it’s wonderful to dream but it’s even more spectacular is doing what you love and doing passionately. We want to work, get what belongs to us and leave a legacy. It’s great when you find women who build you and make you stretch your faith even further. Without a shadow of doubt, I know that the five of us are going to shake the media landscape by it’s horns and they won’t know what hit them! Thank you ladies for an interesting evening, we should  do it again sometime…

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2 Responses to "Women go through ish sometimes… It’s the very ish that makes us stronger than ever"

Girl, that is so for real. I think your take on politics is true and that the people you choose to associate with define a certain part of yourself and mould you in many ways (sometimes unconcious). I believe in quality friendship but it’s hard to let go gal, especially when you’ve gone through so much stuff together. Wish I had your way of keeping it in and not worrying about getting on with life. Thanks, will be checking you out regularly.

P.S. You need to get at RSS feed, see feedburner.com… just so I can see you on my homepage every day :-). K.

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