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Alice Walker:  No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow

My girls and I were chilling at a new joint in Gtown and we were chatting about God, love, life, friends, sex, money, the future and the list goes on and on. But throughout the night I realised that you know women have lots of issues man. We go through stuff!! And I don’t think men know this.

The topic that stood out for me were how we women hold onto things that are holding us down. Be it men who do not plant anything good in our lives, girlfriends who speak badly of us etc. We are hoarders and we think we can change those that are part of our lives but I say if that person ain’t adding anything good to your soul and mind, let them Go!!! TD Jakes says, “have the Spirit of goodbye” meaning when that person’s season has gone past and they are dragging you down instead of pulling you up, wave goodbye to them-their season is gone.

Having said that it is difficult to do so. I mean I was in the same situation not so long ago with one of my friends. I loved her dearly and still do but people grow apart and that was the case with my friend and I. We moved to different varsities, we were 1200km away from each other and life continued. Letting her go broke my heart but I figured if we are true friends we will meet again hopefully in the near future, if not it’s cool. I have met other wonderful people and I feel blessed to have them in my life. So yeah I’ve waved goodbye…

Another topic which struck me the most was the ambition of my friends. Haaibo, I’ve met some interesting people in my life but the women i was chilling with showed me and inspired me to gear up my gears. Life holds so much and it’s wonderful to dream but it’s even more spectacular is doing what you love and doing passionately. We want to work, get what belongs to us and leave a legacy. It’s great when you find women who build you and make you stretch your faith even further. Without a shadow of doubt, I know that the five of us are going to shake the media landscape by it’s horns and they won’t know what hit them! Thank you ladies for an interesting evening, we should  do it again sometime…

I’d like to start off with a quote from William Donahue.

“We have about 47,000 priests in this country and most of them are damn good men, but some of them are rotten.”

What is it about men over forty who go through mid-life crisis?

Is it the monotonous life that drives them to seek something new and exciting?

Are they really bored with their wives or are they just plain selfish?

What occurred over the past couple of days ago has stunned me. At first I did not know this man at all. After a couple of sips of Jack Daniel with my friends, he explained exactly who he was and how much power he has over the up coming generation. At first I began to like him, well let me rephrase that, I began to like the way he thinks. I’m attracted to men who have, for lack of a better phrase, a mature mentality. So there was, intrigued by this old man [and I mean old- around 48] drawn in by his knowledge, power, insights about life, his life style and charisma. But than it dawned on me, I said to myself, Kgaugelo wait a minute this man is old enough to be your grandfather snap out of it! So I did and I realised that he was just some dude who thinks he’ll get lucky. To top it off he tried to speak slang, now and again throwing in swear words like “s%@t and f&$k” so as to identify and fit in with the urban lingo and I was not impressed. As he was going on, I realised that shame all he wants is to be young again and it disgusted me.

And this experience reminded him what it feels like to be below thirty. To chill and just be. No worries about work, family, responsibility and That’s what we gave him. That space to be new again, he dropped his big title and BEE tie and chilled with the three of us.However, I think when life has gone passed don’t leave behind your responsibilities. I later found out that he was married-feel very sorry for the wife because I do think he does this everywhere he goes [macks young girls hoping to score] ag sies man, ba bodile [translation: they are rotten]! Don’t they ever think of repercussions? Ag shame he had knocked on the wrong tree this time around. I’m not one of those girls BEE dudes can pick up… I’m going to get to the top the right way and I don’t care how long it takes as long as my intergrity is intact.

The funniest thing is that most men go through this. I kept on wondering, “dude don’t you have a wife whom you respect and love?” Where have the morals and values gone to? BEE dudes, now that they have made it they forget who stood by them as they struggled, they live for the moment forgetting that there are diseases out there, most importantly they forget that the money and fame can disappear in a matter of seconds and no one will be there for them. This man reminds me of my dad and step-dad but those are stories for my next blog. Stay tune…

May today mark the beginning of many new joys and accomplishments… and a continuation of all of the good things that you have already achieved”

I have finally decided to start blogging. The main reason why it took me sooooo long to start blogging was because I was afraid of people looking at my blog and criticizing it, but you know what? I don’t care and I have no fear baby! The views that will be expressed are mine and mine alone, if someone has an issue with it, tough! This is my space and I will express myself the way I like and when I like… so here goes my first blog. Enjoy everybody….

*pheww now that wasn’t so hard, was it? Hell no…*

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September 2008