Kgaugelo’s Weblog

I just got news that I passed my final varsity exam… with a B nogal!

Wow, I’m speechless. All I need to do now is finish strong as I do my final lap.

God is good…He’s been with me throughout and His hand has been on me…I’m so thankful right now, you have no idea.

I went to my role-model’s website, Vincent Maher, just to see what he’s up to and of course read about what’s happening in the new media world and I noticed he had put up a post about the conference, Socaial Networking World forum, that he’ll be attending next week.

At first I was a bit jealous you know? He is leaving the dream-travelling and speaking about what he is passionate about. And I thought maybe one day it’ll be me…

The conference is titled ‘Shaping the future of social media’, now I know I’m a newbie when it comes to the new media world (hence I’m studying it now) however I realised something unnerving…the key speakers are from global brands, organisations, social networking publishers and developers, pioneering social media leaders, top agencies, and content producers.

Anyhow I kept reading and  about the Forum  and how it is “the perfect event for professionals to learn and discuss the future development of social media. The two day conference and exhibition will provide a focused platform for the global social media industry.

The conference aims to address core issues such as monetization, future technologies/services, engaging social groups with brands and how businesses can get the most out of social and business networks”.


After looking at the key speakers I noticed that they didn’t have a black woman representing or even speaking… I do stand to be corrected here and I’ll be glad if someone challenges me but why isn’t there a face of colour particularly an African black female face? Do not think I’m pulling on a ‘race’ card here but try seeing this from my view.

The world is becoming more digitalised and globalised than ever before. Moreover, more people are getting educated about telecommunications, intergrated marketing, social media, and new media.  And I felt that black women again are being side-lined.

Granted in Africa we don’t have many instutions that give us access but  isn’t  there at least one  black South African woman who is specialising in these industry? Surely black women also have influence in their cultural and economic circles? Surely global businesses are targeting the ‘other’ race because mostly black young and upcoming professionals are using social networking sites, creating business for it etc?

Yes, I understand that the forum is about social networks and  examining the current market conditions, future forecasts and predictions from leading analysts and so on but to answer my question about-If that’s the case we have still have a long way until everyone is part of this global wave of new media.

Hopefully ten years from now I can be that black beautiful, sophisticated and educated woman who challenges people about social networking along side fellow South African, Vincent Maher…


Yes, I know I’ve been gone for almost four months *gasp* but nonetheless Mrs K is back. You probably thinking dude it’s been over 97 days, 18 hours and a few seonds since you’ve last blogged, what happened? Was I in hospital? Did I get stranded somewhere? No silly, I just had the writers block…*and there was silence* Hmmm I guess that’s not valid enough ok ok ok I as afraid of blogging again. I guess you may call it “spiral of silence”. My passion for writing was sort of stunted but yes I apologise for mysterious disappearance. I’ll will not do that again but just know this time around I won’t blog as much as I used to because I hardly have time to myself.

So much as happened over the last few months- I actually don’t know where to begin. I’m always overwhelmed by the thought that I’m actually in fourth year completing my Bjourn@ Rhodes and specialising in new media *someone pinch me please* I still think it’s a dream. Anyhow it’s been great, we’re moving like lightning through our course work and I haven’t had time to digest and process some of the stuff  but it’s all going wonderfully and I’m loving every second.

My family is great- mom is happy as usually, my brother is growing fast, we had our family extended over December. Yeah that was a huge one but slowly we’re coming to terms with that (will blog about this-it has been tough for my mom). We’re praying and hoping for some miracle and breakthrough to occur. I also saw my little brother and he is getting cuter by the moment, paps has issues as always but I love him nonetheless. My man is good-he is becoming more and more handsome and I fall in love with him every single second of everyday. My highlight for the Dec/Jan holiday was our third year anniversary-can’t spill too much info -but lets just say that he was Mr Charmer of note and the day was spectacular! I’ve become Multimedia Editor for it has not been easy but I’m praying for an answer concerning our website. I’m still tutoring and mentoring and enjoying the platform of sharing my life and skills to fellow varsity mates. Lastly and probably most importantly, I’m starting a business and it seems big, I not sure how big but I’m excited and I can’t wait to actually talk to the relevant people about it and get it up and running in Johannesburg.

So yeah… That’s  what happened over the past four months in a nutshell. Don’t worry I’ll blog and set up pictures about everything that’s happening when time allows. For now, I need to go back to my readers we’re doing digital photography- it’s going to be interesting knowing that I can’t take professional pictures to save my life.

I’ll end off the post by saying welcome back Miss K and I wish you many rewarding posts…”Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can”.

” Saying goodbye doesn’t mean anything. It’s the time we spent together that matters, not how we left it”. Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Tweek Vs. Craig, 1999

Td Jakes always speaks of having the spirit of good-bye and being able to let go of things that come into our lives for a season. ‘Tis a sad season because most of my friends are leaving varsity. Makhie, Muts, Kele, Kholo and Tumi just to name a few. It’s such a harsh reality to know that the friends that you know [whom are your pillars] have to go and I need to let them go. On the other hand what is revealed to me is that life keeps moving whether one likes it or not- it’s a clear indication that we’re growing and new seasons are coming, bringing along new friends and new pathes. However, it’s unfortunate that some people will be left along the way. But it’s one of those things that we accept and move on. Some people come for a particular reason in your life and we need to remember that seasons come and go and so do friends. So I bid them farewell… ’til we meet again my friends.

“Don’t be dismayed at good-byes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends”
Richard Bach

I found this interesting blog and to top it off-it’s my spiritual father’s. Go  check out his post titled “a perfect day”… he speaks of his daughter’s wedding… it was absolutely beautiful. Apparently he picked out the dress for her-it’s gorgeous!

TD and his daughter

TD and his daughter

Noel Jones, Tyler Perry and many more other powerful and anointed guests were there… ah I wish I could have a wedding like that and have my biological father says what TD said about his daughter… it’s a pity that won’t happen any time soon because we not speaking to each other, I even wonder if he’ll walk me down the aisle? I doubt it though, things have been so pear shaped lately and it’ll take one huge miracle to get things back to normal again, but then again we were never one of those ‘normal’ families… maybe I’ll be one of those brides who walk down the aisle by themselves… hmmm now that I think about it- that’ll be quite awkward…it’s going to be  very interesting how that day will pan out…Anyhow before I throw a pity party for myself, I must say Sarah had a lot of bridemaids…5?! And her hubby had 7 dudes by his side…now that’s madness…I don’t think I’ll have bridemaids because…eish it’ll be a difficult procedure… at the most I think I’ll have one… but we’ll see… let me go back to my studying  *huge sigh and yawn*

Marriage is ever made by destiny.
George Chapman

True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does.

It’s such a beautiful thing when two people are madly in love with each other…it sometimes feels like a dream when I think about him and how he has held on to us…Ah I love him so much… Day in and day out I tell him how much he means to me. He is what I have been looking for and I’m truly thankful.

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From “Unforgettable with Love” by Natalie Cole

Yes…Sometimes I think I’m a little obsessed…lol… ok ok…but it’s true… love is the greatest thing anyone can ever learn to do. It teaches one to be humble, patient and not to think about ones-self but always putting your spouse’s feelings first. No one teaches you to be selfless but you learn as you grow older and maturer with your spouse. I pray and hope God keeps this relationship from harm. I found these awesome quotes from the net that just inspire me…

Love me without fear
Trust me without questioning
Need me without demanding
Want me without restrictions
Accept me without change
Desire me without inhibitions
For a love so free….
Will never fly away.
~ by Dick Sutphen ~

Love is a burning desire,
That makes your heart light on fire,
Love is being with you,
Someone saying I love you too,
Love is your tender kiss,
Something you don’t want to miss,
Love is you and me,
And that is all I see.
~ by Anonymous ~

Love is like a rumor,
Everyone talks about it,
But no one truly knows.
~ by Anonymous ~

Love is like swallowing hot chocolate
Before it has cooled off.
It takes you by surprise at first,
But keeps you warm for a long time.
~ by Anonymous ~

My love for you is a journey;
Starting at forever,
And ending at never.
~ by Anonymous ~

And to end of my post… these words by Battista ring so true to me… hence I’m sharing my found love about my man while I still can… while I’m still alive.

The greatest weakness of most humans
Is their hesitancy to tell others,
How much they love them
While they’re alive.
~ by O.A. Battista ~

I do not want to die… until I have faithfully made the most of my talent and cultivated the seed that was placed in me until the last small twig has grown.
Kathe Kollwitz, O Magazine, September 2002

I had great weekend with my girls… I partied like there is no tomorrow and had so much fun but one thing I realised is how much I appreciate my close friends here at Rhodes. They have been there for me throughout this year and I’m grateful. It’s a pity most are leaving but it’s cool our paths will mos def cross.  Now it’s time I studied for exams… really don’t feel like it but it’s gotta be done especially if I want to get my degree… I have seven papers all in all and then in 20 days I’ll be in my baby’s arms… Ah I miss him so much…

To achieve great things we must live as though we were never going to die.
Marquis de Vauvenargues

God is good and His love endureth forever!! I just got into my fourth year specialisation New Media y’all… ah my day could not end on a more happier note…I’m spilling over with joy and tears are streaming down my face because there were times were though maybe I won’t make it… but here I am saying… I actually made it…. and it was not by my strength nor might but by the man upstairs.

I have been dreaming about this day to come and it’s finally here- it feels like I’m in living in a dream-someone pinch me please! My gosh this feeling is incredible. The feeling of… thinking I got in. I got through three years of varsity and finally got into new media… ahh I feel like screamimg from the top of my lungs because my majors Drama 3 and Journ 3 are not subjects that a weak character must take on, you must know your eish, be focused and plan well in advance! At times crying and shying away from work doesn’t work, everyday I’d tell myself to pull it together.

Of course, mommy dearest is THE PERSON I should thank for helping me push this far. If it wasn’t for my moms encouragement then I probably would’ve dropped out-thanks mommy, really I know it’s been hard paying fees every year and making sure my dreams of getting a university education come true. This woman has sacrificed so much. I remember  when I would go back home for vacs and there would be no grocery in the fridge because my mom made sure I come back home safe and sound via plane. She’s been selfless and one day I pray that I turn out like her. I pray that I can repay all that she’s invested in me. When I graduate in 2010 I’ll be doing it for her, no one else. I want to be the first grandchild to get a university degree and make my mother proud!

Another person whom I should mention, has made me dream bigger than big. He is the love of my life, my man. He makes me stretch my faith to the furtherest ends. He inspires me to be the best I can be and he has been there for the past three years encouraging and edifying me through and through. He asked me out two months before coming to Rhodes and I can’t believe that we’ve made it this far. This December we celebrate our third year anniversary…ahh I’m wiping tears from my cheeks because has supported me even though at times things seemed impossible, he stood in the gap for me and believed in my dreams. There are very few guys out there like my man and I appreciate him so much!

“So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable”. Christopher Reeve

My dream has become inevitable. Now I feel like I can just start and be thrown into the deep end…. ah the sleepless nights, no social life, working weekends, adrenaline rush… ah music to my ears! I can’t wait. I wish my exams and vac could fast forward so I can get into it….Now, since I’ve made it into my specialisation, I need to start thinking where I’ll be working and for which company…hmmm luckily I’ve got my internship with the Times Multimedia team secured for Dec so I’ll see from there. But ag let me live in the moment, I’ll think about the ‘life after new media’ next week…* sigh* It’s done now… all done! Thank you Lord!!!!!!

Victory belongs to the most persevering.

Napoleon Bonaparte
French general & politician (1769 – 1821)

The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.
Denis Watley

The past 3 months or so I’ve been slightly anxious especially about my academics and my degree. I left high school having planned to do journalism and media studies and when I arrived at varsity I fell in love with New Media. I didn’t know what was in it-I was just drawn to it and as time went by I really started being obsessed by this specialisation, I mean I look at cnn’s website, the times multimedia portal and many others, and I’d go absolutely crazy. I believe new media is an innovative field within the media industry, it’s fresh, exciting, thought-provoking and I believe it will take journalism to new heights in terms of reporting and giving a voice to the voiceless in this evolving world we live in. I really see myself doing this but moreover owning a multimedia empire before the age of 35 [and mothering nations-want to build shelters for broken women and orphans together with my husband].

So many people look down on this Benoni girl and they do not know what I possess. However, it has not been smooth sailing- I’ve had to work three times harder than most students just to where I am and the competition has been rough but I’m proud to say that I’m 6 weeks away from attaining my degree and nothing will stop me.  I find comfort in these words, “We find no real satisfaction or happiness in life without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve”, because I feel the obstacles that have come my way have made me even stronger. So even though there is a hectic process of applying into specialisations here at school, which by the way only 8 are chosen from 120 students who apply for new media, I’m still confident that I will get whatsoever I long for.

The reason why I’m so sure about this is, is because I know all will be alright, whether or not I get in. All has been mapped and planned out for me-my days are ordained so I’m not going to worry myself sick about my future but rather, I’m going to be at peace with myself and press forward for the goal which lies ahead of me. I know I will eventually get there and there are many doors out there, not just one.  As soon as I realised this my anxieties and struggles within my heart were settled and I gained the utmost confidence to keep pushing-work hard, finish my undergrad and move on to my next chapter of my life and eventually own my multimedia company. I’m feeling excited about it because I’m not limiting myself. Things are going to get bigger and better. So watch this space…

The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams. Og Mandino (1923 – 1996)

The idea of an election is much more interesting to me than the election itself…The act of voting is in itself the defining moment.

Jeff Melvoin, Northern Exposure, Democracy in America, 1992

I found this cool PSA and I wondered if us South Africans will ever have something like this? People can be so apathetic about things, especially things like voting, I for one fall under that category. I know it’s wrong but like many young people out there voting seems like a shlurp especially if the people who make up the cabinet are “bad apples” and I do put that in quotation marks because not all of them are like that. We can sort of tell where we going to end up and whether or not the ANC will win again. However, as from today I’m going to change my ways because for some reason our country’s future seems bright with Kgalema Motlanthe as our interim president, in any case I think our country is in safe hands-we’ve got intellectual individuals running it and God by our side. So I’m happy with that and not at all worried about the state of affairs of this country-everything will work itself out… Check the PSA out and tell me what you think.

September 2020